choose your battles….

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Break the Silence.”    There would have been a million times when I wish I had just said something. Anything, to wipe the smirk from the face.  Just this once I wish I had given a befitting riposte  , turned around with aplomb and walked out of the room leaving behind a dozen gaping mouths almost reaching the floor.

Believe you me, I am no fool or a doormat. I have my wits about me always so I have no shortage of replies just dancing on the tip of my tongue ready like a whiplash. But then I have realised that a sharp tongue is the only instrument that gets sharper with use. I have seen the hurt in the eyes of friends and family when the whiplash lands straight at the heart. Not every comment, said Knowingly or unknowingly requires a befitting reply. Sometimes it is just wiser to remain quite. Even when you know you are being wronged. It is never easy but situations subtly demand so. A lot depends upon balancing the good that may come out of it or the pain that it might cause.  The part of the world that I come from joint families are very common. More the number of people more the chances of discord. A  small comment or a statement can cause so much of pain. .It is so much easier to set the records straight then and there. You speak, I speak,you speak, I speak. Even in nuclear families this situation exists. A lot of fights between husband and wife is a direct result of this giving back syndrome. Please do not mistake me. I do not advocate keeping quite at all times. I am pretty much an  educated modern woman with a mind of my own….and I read in one of the quotes on Pintrest “AN EDUCATED WOMAN IS A DANGEROUS CREATURE”… but I have learnt to temper my mind for the larger good. Not all battles need to be fought…. Sometimes silence speaks more clearly than words.

Since early childhood my grand mother taught me that let others speak ill of you, if you do not  let those words permeate within you those words bounce of you and keep circulating in this universe like the million unwanted cosmic dust particles, but if you start reacting to every thing that is said  you yourself harm your peace. You try finding ways to get back at others and the vicious cycle continues.

So learn to choose your battles and fight them well but do not put down people just for the heck of it.

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12 Responses to choose your battles….

  1. sangeeta singh says:

    You r right. There is a prover , …..speech is silver n silence is gold.its completely ones choice whether he or she wants to be in peace or in a battle field

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  2. Pratyush says:

    I had read somewhere – “don’t let that something that does not matter make you lose something that does”. Through very relatable instances in all our lives your writing gives a clear meaning to this quote.

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  3. reena singh says:

    Oh! So bold & deep analysis of life.

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  4. yoshasingh says:

    thankyou so much.i have been taught well.

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  5. As the saying goes…there’s a time to speak, there’s a time for silence…it’s really better not to speak when you know it will not do any good…Keep speaking for encouragement, kindness and love 🙂

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  6. wwwpalfitness says:

    Reblogged this on wwwpalfitness.

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  7. yoshasingh says:

    thankyou for liking my post

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  8. Sometimes not saying something takes more effort than saying it. Thanks for the reminder that we should be careful with our words. I love that line “…a sharp tongue is the only instrument that gets sharper with use.” AWESOME!

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  9. yoshasingh says:

    Thankyou melle,may i call you that, for visiting my blog and in return I was treated to beautiful pieces of articulate writing,yours, word press has made me come across such beautiful blogs which are beyond counties, beyond cultures, just simply human. hope to read more of you soon

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  10. Shruti singh says:

    Lovely!!!

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